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What Lies Are You Telling Yourself Today? #012


Searching for success and happiness?

On today’s podcast episode we are talking about The Lies You Tell Yourself.

That little nagging negative voice we hear any time we dare to step outside of our norms. Outside of our comfort zone. Any time we do the most human things we do, think, dream or plan.

That little voice that can, and often does, call the shots in our lives, preventing us from reaching our true potential and living a more rewarding and fulfilling life.

We’ve all heard it before right?Just ignore that lying negative little voice in our heads that prevents us from chasing a dream, from taking a risk, from believing in ourselves. And yet, for some stupid reason we still listen to the little liar in our heads.

When it comes to revealing and more importantly understanding our lies we have to familiarize ourselves with the emotions that we feel most often. Are we excited more often than nervous? Are we curious more often than suspicious? Are we happy more often than sad? Do we allow negative emotions to drive our choices and run our days or do we insist the glass is half full?

There’s a story in your past that likely defines whether or not you live with a positive energy, guided by positive emotions or negative ones. Do you know your story? More importantly, do you accept it or is it time to dissect it and reveal the truth?

Every time we discover the truth behind a lie that we’ve believed or have been told about ourselves we’re faced with a choice. A choice to continue to perpetuate the lie or to confront it and choose to believe in ourselves.

But we all know it's not that easy.

If it was that easy to just ignore that negative voice we wouldn't need to have these conversations.

That negative little voice is powerful, bold, and very convincing.

The good news is the lies only work if we aren’t paying attention. If other mechanisms are in place to ensure the lie passes with through with flying colors. Un-scrupulized.

Maybe it tells you the lie that you aren’t smart enough because you failed 2nd grade, or that you’re not skinny enough because your grandmother had a big butt not because you secretly ate cookies for breakfast for 2 years. That if you take on a risk you will fail because you've failed before. Maybe it tells you that your relationships aren't making you happy because you deserve to be unhappy.

Or that your marriage isn’t what you want it to be because your spouse just doesn’t care, or that your kids drive you crazy because they have bad influences, or that you really want to achieve a specific goal but there just isn’t enough time or money to do it.

The lie that you aren’t happy and it’s something or someone else’s fault.

We're all familiar with the little liar in our heads. Right?

I know how painful it can be to dig into who we really are. The conversations we have with ourselves. To own our own bullshit. It means understanding why we tell ourselves those lies in the first place. It means getting real with what we truly want and if we’re really willing to go after it.

It means owning our excuses. Facing our fears. Understanding our secrets. But I honestly believe that you can rebuild your life, just like I, and all of my clients have, by taking this first step and asking yourself one simple question: “What am I lying to myself about today?”

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