Better Boundaries For A Better Life Pt.#1 #005
Boundaries help you create and live your best life.
Today’s podcast is about one of the biggest struggles that can suck the joy right out of your life. It can leave you feeling depleted, disconnected, frustrated, lonely, angry or even depressed.
I personally struggled with this problem for decades.
I was a people pleasing doormat.
The funny thing is, no one knew it. On the outside, I looked confident, like I had my shit together. But inside I was terrified someone would actually SEE ME. That they would be disappointed in me. And That I wasn’t good ENOUGH.
I bit my tongue and avoided confrontations. I put up with being treated poorly or at best having my feelings and needs come LAST on the list.
Does that ring any bells with you?
Ever stopped yourself from saying or doing something you knew to be right for you because of what someone else might think or how someone else might react?
Ever had someone in your life who only seemed to come around when they needed something? Ever had someone who made you feel insignificant or small? Ever put up with something or someone because the thought of the confrontation was seemingly worse than tolerating the situation or person?
If so, you need some boundaries my friend and fast.
Do you struggle with:
Saying NO without fear, anxiety or guilt
Dealing with conflict
Believing in yourself/or having self-confidence
Feeling pushed around
Negative self-talk.(that negative chatter you hear in your head saying “oh no, you can’t do that because you’ll look stupid or remember when you tried that before, you really messed that one up.”
How about Achieving goals- most likely because of the negative chatter
Time management.- or procrastination
Feeling stuck/or unmotivated
Feel taken for granted or unappreciated
If you battle any of these things, you’re not alone. I did too. And so do millions of other people.
It may surprise you to know that lacking boundaries is behind every single one of those struggles. Even achieving goals or the negative self-talk.
So It’s time to have an honest and frank conversation around what it means to not have boundaries and the REAL difference it’ll make in your life and the lives of the people around you.
On this episode I dig into the question: